Broke-Ass Movie

So, I don't know if it's the fact that I started watching the film an hour in or if, perhaps, it was that I watched the for-TV version and missed all the good drama.  Regardless, there was too much drama for me and I find it disgusting that it was applauded.  I'm talking about Brokeback Mountain...  the story of two terrible fathers, both very absent and/or abusive to their children and both with their over-used vice of choice.  In one scene, Ennis Del Mar (Heath Ledger), yells at his daughters and kicks the house after his wife cuts short his trip to see Jack Twist (Jake Gyllenhaal).  There are also many scenes of Ennis sitting around his house (drunk) and yelling with his wife in front of their two daughters.  Jack likes to pour himself into his work and is also (as he later confesses to Ennis) sleeping around on his wife.  Beyond their being often-times absent to their children, these men are horrible to their families when they're there.  Later, after Ennis and his wife have gotten divorced, they seem civil enough.  However, after a Christmas dinner with her and her new husband, Ennis's ex-wife presses him about a private area of his life and he gets abusive with her.  The movie ends for Jack Twist by being beaten to death after he is discovered to be sleeping with another man's wife.  For Ennis, who would never hold a job to support his children, the end is (for me, at least) unsympathetic in a trailer park, having begrudgingly agreed to attend his eldest daughter's wedding. 
I don't know about you, but I find it very hard to sympathize with two self-involved men who have no respect for their wives or children.  One of them can't hold a job, both are horrible parents, and both are alcoholics. 
Sympathy does not grow strong men.  A constant vigil on what is strong, selfless, loyal, and responsible is what makes a hero a hero.  These attributes, and many more that may well be respected, have all escaped our main characters here.  I will trade controversy for a respectable film any day of the week.